What Do We Talk About in a Christian Life Coaching Session?
Christian Life Coaching Helps you Understand God’s Direction For Your Life
When I tell people I’m a Christian life coach or that I offer Spiritual Discernment sessions, I usually get an “Oh, that’s cool,” a nod, a smile, and a dusty glimmer of “Huh?” in their eyes.
Clearly, they have only a vague idea at best about what the heck I do.
Most people have heard of life coaching and Christian coaching. But, still, until you’ve worked with a coach, it can be hard to wrap your head around what coaching actually is.
What happens in a Christian coaching session?
What kind of things do we talk about when we’re trying to discern God’s voice?
What questions are okay to bring to a Christian life coach?
Most simply put…
I’m a Christian life coach and I help people find clarity in their decisions
and discern God’s direction for their lives.
What Kind Of Stuff Comes Up In A Christian Coaching Session?
Typically in a session with me, you’ll come with one topic you need clarity or encouragement on.
You might have a whole list of things you want to hear the Lord on or talk out with me and seek wisdom for. This is normal! Many clients come with multiple topics they want to look into. And we’ll get to them in time🩷.
But since in each meeting we’re aiming to help you move forward somehow (not just stay stuck in your feelings about it), we take those questions one at a time.
(*In an Intensive session, we’ll typically get to 2-4 topics. These sessions are a great option if you’re ready to dig deep, focus, and spend a few hours together at once.)
There’s no “right” or “wrong” thing to bring into a session. If it’s weighing on your heart, then it matters. The Lord cares about what you're carrying, and He wants to meet you with clarity, wisdom, and peace. He doesn’t want you, His precious child, to be confused.
Even if the answer is to wait, He wants you to feel certain that He’s walking with you in the waiting.
In each session, women bring real-life questions to the table. Things they’ve been praying about, journaling through, or just quietly wrestling with on their own. There’s also the “I don’t know what’s up, but something’s off” question they bring sometimes, too.
Here’s a peek at the kinds of questions we often discern together…
(*What you share with me in a coaching session stays between us. The only exception would be if there’s a serious ethical concern—like if you’re in danger, someone else is, or something illegal is involved. To protect each client’s privacy, I’ve gently tweaked the examples below. They’re still true to the heart of what we’ve worked through together, just adjusted slightly to honor confidentiality.)
Real-Life Questions For Christian Coaching And Spiritual Discernment Sessions
Here are some examples of topics and questions from my actual Christian coaching clients (tweaked for confidentiality):
Life Direction + Calling
I don’t know what to do with my life.
What are my next steps in this season?
I feel scattered and directionless.
I keep starting things and not finishing them. I need clarity and encouragement to move forward.
I’m turning 40 and freaking out.
I feel like I should’ve accomplished more by now.
I want to own my own business, but I’m not sure if it’s my idea or God’s.
I’m starting a business, but need help defining my niche.
I feel called to something more, but I’m afraid to go for it.
I’m retiring this year and need a plan so I don’t fade away.
How do I use my passion and talents?
Work, Money, and Life Decisions
Should I leave my job?
I don’t like my boss and have lots of negative experiences at work.
Am I ready to be a mom?
I’m making good money, but don’t know what to do with it.
What should I do with an unexpected windfall of money?
Should I renovate my house or move?
Should I stay home with my baby or go back to work?
I feel stuck financially.
Faith + Spiritual Life
I don’t feel God’s presence right now and want to reconnect.
I feel like I’m disappointing God.
I’m “deconstructing” my faith, but don’t want to lose it.
I want some kind of spiritual practice that feeds my soul.
I want to start a Bible study, but I’m not sure if it’s God’s idea or mine.
I’m not sure I’m at the right church. Are these my peo
ple?
What are the natural gifts God’s given me?
I want to learn how to hear God’s voice more clearly.
I long for a more intimate friendship with God, but don’t know how.
Relationships + Community
I feel intimidated by the women at my child’s school and want to feel more confident.
I’m not satisfied with my friendships. I want deeper, more meaningful relationships.
I don’t know where I fit in.
I’m lonely, even though I’m around people all the time.
I struggle with setting boundaries.
I make myself small to please others.
I was rude to a friend. How do I make it right?
Is this relationship healthy for me?
Emotional + Inner Life (Identity, Self-Worth, Well-Being)
I haven’t forgiven myself.
I don’t feel good about myself and lack confidence.
I’m anxious all the time.
I struggle with control and want to learn to let go.
I bottle up my feelings and explode. What do I do?
I want to stop reacting and start responding from peace.
I’ve lost my identity in motherhood and don’t know myself anymore.
I’m not enjoying my children.
I want to create healthier habits and routines.
It’s a challenge to take care of myself.
Bring Your Questions To Christian Coaching
All of those questions are so varied. And that’s just a sampling of some of the topics clients bring to a session.
Anything you’ve got on your heart that you want to seek the Lord about is free game.
Come to Him. He is your counselor. He wants to lead you.
"I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my loving eye on you." Psalm 32:8
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